大致翻譯整理了以下文獻的附錄一、二、三的資料，對悲憫心（compassion mind）有個初步的認識和使用工具。
悲憫心，將是用來對治人們內在的自我批評的最佳方式。
悲憫心，將是用來對治人們內在的自我批評的最佳方式。
Paul Gilbert and Sue Procter (2006). Compassionate
Mind Training for People with High Shame and Self-Criticism: Overview and Pilot
Study of a Group Therapy Approach. Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy. 13,
353–379
附錄一、培育內在的悲憫心
APPENDIX
1. DEVELOPING QUALITIES OF INNER COMPASSION
自我批評帶給自己莫大的壓力並使自己感覺很糟糕。面對這種失望以及自己的「內在霸凌」的其中一種方法就是學會悲憫自己。因此我們需要培養以下的特質：
一、重視悲憫心。Valuing compassion
二、同理心。Empathy
三、同情心。Sympathy
四、寬容。Forgiveness
五、接納/忍受力。Acceptance/tolerance
六、培養溫暖的感覺。Developing feelings of warmth
七、成長。Growth
八、負責。Taking responsibility
九、訓練。Training
一、重視悲憫心。Valuing compassion
有人會擔心悲憫自己會讓他們變得懦弱或缺乏上進心。他們因此不會真正的重視疼惜。然而，我們想想那些以悲憫出名的人，如佛陀、基督、甘地、南丁格爾與曼德拉，他們很難被視為是懦弱的人或不成功。學會悲憫心，真得可以讓我們更堅強、感覺更有自信。
二、同理心。Empathy
同理心意謂著我們可以瞭解其他人有什麼感受與想法、從他們的觀點立場來看待事情。同樣的，當我們用同理心對待自己，我們可以更瞭解自己的某些痛苦感受，像是失望、焦慮、憤怒或悲傷。這可能會要我們去學習溫柔地覺察到自己的感受與苦惱，而不是試圖注意或避開這些感受與苦惱。
我們有時候會告訴自己我們不應該去感受或思考我們有的感受或思考，要試圖否認而不是要去處理我們的感受。這樣的問題在於我們沒有好好探索以瞭解這些感受或想法，所以這些感受或想法就會讓我們感到好害怕。我們可以學習去瞭解我們是如何以及為什麼會變得自我批評，通嘗是因為我們在某些方面感覺到威脅。"有同理心" 意謂著要能夠看見在自我批評背後的那些威脅。
我們有時候會告訴自己我們不應該去感受或思考我們有的感受或思考，要試圖否認而不是要去處理我們的感受。這樣的問題在於我們沒有好好探索以瞭解這些感受或想法，所以這些感受或想法就會讓我們感到好害怕。我們可以學習去瞭解我們是如何以及為什麼會變得自我批評，通嘗是因為我們在某些方面感覺到威脅。"有同理心" 意謂著要能夠看見在自我批評背後的那些威脅。
三、同情心。Sympathy
同情心比較無關乎我們的瞭解，而與我們的感覺和想要去關懷、協助與療癒的心意比較有關。當我們同情某人，我們會為他們感到難過或苦惱。學會對自己有同情心，意謂著我們可以學會感到難過但不是陷入憂鬱，例如，不會跟自己說感覺到難過是有些不好或錯誤的。我們可以聚焦在我們的同情心裡的慈愛。
四、寬容。Forgiveness
我們內在的自我批評通常很不寬容，通常認為不應錯過任何一個攻擊或譴責的機會。然而，學會寬容之道，卻非常重要。寬容讓我們得以學會如何改變，我們坦誠地面對自己的錯誤並從中學習與成長。
五、接納/忍受力。Acceptance/tolerance
我們可能很想改變自己本身的許多部分，有時這麼做是很有助益的。然而，學會 “如實地” 接納身為人類的自己，也是很重要的。接納，並不是被動的順從，像是被打敗的感覺，也不是為自己操心。接納是以開放的心來看待我們自己所有的錯誤和努力。這就好像我們得了流行性感冒，要接受自己必須躺床好好休息，但也要盡力去做有助於自己康復的事情。
六、培養溫暖的感覺。Developing feelings of warmth
這需要我們開始去體驗及練習用溫暖的心來對待自己。為了做到這點，我們可以利用畫面來練習讓溫暖的感覺傳入自己的內心。當我們憂鬱時，這種溫暖的感覺可能會變得非常微弱且難以產生 ---- 所以我們才需要多練習。這聽起來很奇怪，有時甚至讓人害怕 ---- 所以我們要一步一步來。
七、成長。Growth
悲憫心是專注在幫助人們成長、改變與發展。這是以某種方法來提升生活，但霸凌就做不到。當我們學會以悲憫心對待自己，我們正在學習處理我們犯了錯的自己，然後我們得以從中獲得成長與改變。悲憫心也幫助我們得以面對一些我們希望避開的痛苦感受。
八、負責。Taking responsibility
讓悲憫心得以有效的要素之一就是對自己的自我批評的想法負起責任。為做到這點，我們要學會辨認我們何時在自我批判，然後運用我們內在的悲憫心提供另一種不同的觀點與感受。
九、訓練。Training
當我們攻擊自己，就是激活了我們腦中的某些路徑，但是當我們學會疼惜與支持自己的付出，我們就是刺激到不同的路徑。我們有時很擅長於激活內在的攻擊與批評，以致於我們刺激內在的支持與溫暖的能力就顯得相當微弱。
因此，我們現在已經瞭解到我們可以選擇與自己的自我攻擊型想法不同的其他方法，我們可以探索有哪些方式可以使這些方法更能影響到我們的情緒。這不是要趕走哪些令人痛苦的事實，而是要幫助我們用不同的方式來因應。
在訓練的部分就像是去找物理治療師一樣，你學會要做一些練習並建立某些強項。腦中的疼惜/悲憫系統就是我們試圖透過我們的練習來加以強化的系統。
因此，我們現在已經瞭解到我們可以選擇與自己的自我攻擊型想法不同的其他方法，我們可以探索有哪些方式可以使這些方法更能影響到我們的情緒。這不是要趕走哪些令人痛苦的事實，而是要幫助我們用不同的方式來因應。
在訓練的部分就像是去找物理治療師一樣，你學會要做一些練習並建立某些強項。腦中的疼惜/悲憫系統就是我們試圖透過我們的練習來加以強化的系統。
As we have seen from our work together, being self-critical can be very stressful and make us feel worse. One way of coping with disappointment and our ‘inner bully’ is to learn be compassionate to the self. This requires a number of things of us:
1. Valuing
compassion. Some people are worried that if they are compassionate with
themselves they may somehow be weak or lack the drive to succeed. Thus, they
don’t really value compassion. However, if we think about people who are
renowned for their compassion, such as Buddha, Jesus, Ghandi, Florence
Nightingale and Nelson Mandela, they can hardly be regarded as weak or
‘unsuccessful’. Learning to be compassionate can actually make us stronger and
feel more confident.
2. Empathy.
Empathy means that we can understand how people feel and think, see things from
their point of view. Similarly, when we have empathy for ourselves we can
develop a better understanding for some of our painful feelings of
disappointment, anxiety, anger or sadness. This can mean we may need to learn
when to be gently sensitive to our feelings and distress—rather than try not to
notice them or avoid them. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we shouldn’t feel
or think as we do, and try to deny our feelings rather than working with them.
The problem with this is that we don’t explore them to understand them and then
they can be frightening to us. We can learn to understand how and why we became
selfcritical, often because we feel threatened in some way. Becoming empathic
means coming to see the threats that lay behind self-criticism.
3. Sympathy.
Sympathy is less about our understanding and more about feeling and wanting to
care, help and heal. When we feel sympathy for someone, we can feel sad or
distressed with them. Learning to have sympathy for ourselves means that we can
learn to be sad, without being depressed, e.g., without telling ourselves that
there is something wrong or bad about feeling sad. We can also focus on
feelings of kindness in our sympathy.
4. Forgiveness.
Our self-critical part is often very unforgiving, and will usually see any
opportunity to attack or condemn as an opportunity not to be missed. Learning
the art of forgiveness, however, can be important. Forgiveness allows us to
learn how to change; we are open to our mistakes and learn from them.
5. Acceptance/tolerance.
There can be many things about ourselves that we might like to change, and
sometimes it is helpful to do that. However, it is also important to develop
acceptance of ourselves as human beings ‘as we are’ with a full range of
positive and negative emotions. Acceptance isn’t passive resignation, such as
feelings of being defeated, or not bothering with oneself. It is an
open-heartedness to all our fallibilities and efforts. It is like having the
flu and accepting that you have to go to bed perhaps but also doing all you can
to help your recovery.
6. Developing
feelings of warmth. This requires us to begin to experience and practice
generating feelings of warmth for the self. To do this we can use images and
practice feeling warmth coming into us. When we are depressed this feeling may
be very toned down and hard to generate—so we will have to practice. It can
seem strange and sometimes even frightening—so we can go step at a time.
7. Growth.
Compassion is focused on helping people grow, change and develop. It is life
enhancing in a way that bullying often is not. When we learn to be
compassionate with ourselves, we are learning to deal with our fallible selves,
such that we can grow and change. Compassion can also help us face some of the
painful feelings we wish to avoid.
8. Taking
responsibility. One element of compassionate mind work is taking
responsibility for one’s self-critical thinking. To do this we can learn to
recognize when it’s happening and then use our compassionate side to provide
alternative views and feelings.
9. Training.
When we attack ourselves we stimulate certain pathways in our brain but when we
learn to be compassionate and supportive to our efforts we stimulate different
pathways. Sometimes we are so well practiced at stimulating inner
attacks/criticisms that our ability to stimulate inner support and warmth is
rather under-developed. Hence, now that we have seen how we can generate
alternatives to our self-attacking thoughts, we can explore ways to help them
have more emotional impact. It does not take away painful realities but it can
help us to cope in a different way. The training part can be like going to a
physiotherapist, where you learn to do exercises and build up certain
strengths. The compassion systems in your brain are the ones we are trying to
strengthen with our exercises.
附錄二、建立一個疼惜的內在心像
APPENDIX 2. BUILDING A
COMPASSIONATE IMAGE
圖片來源：http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_a46bc7ca0102vjej.html
此練習是幫助你建立一個悲憫的心像（譯註：觀音菩薩、媽祖、聖母瑪利亞等等應該是國人最常見的悲憫心像），讓你得以運用與發展（只要你想要，你也可以建立多個心像，一段時間之後你也可以改變這些心像）。每當心像浮現腦海，或你選擇要加以處理時，請記得這是你的創作，因而是你自己個人的理想
---- 也就是在被關照與被在意的感覺當中你真正想要的東西。可是，在這個練習中，很重要的是你要試圖對你的心像賦予某些特質。這些特質包括：
智慧、力量、溫暖與不評價
所以在以下表格每個欄位裡，請想想每一個特質（智慧、力量、溫暖與不評價），然後想像這些特質看起來、聽起來與感覺起來像是什麼樣子。可能的話，先聚焦在你的呼吸上，找到我們平靜的節奏並保持淺淺的微笑。然後我們讓心像浮現腦海 ---- 盡力而為，但不要太過努力 ---- 若沒什麼東西浮現，或心思漫遊到他處了，只要溫和地將心思焦點帶回到呼吸上並練習以慈悲的心接納這一切。以下有一些問句，可以幫助你建立一個內在心像：
你是否想要你的照顧/滋養型心像感覺起來/看起來老練一點還是年輕一點；是男性還是女性（或是非人類的形象，如動物、大海或光）？什麼樣的顏色和聲音穢語智慧、力量、溫暖和不評價等特質有關？
請想像你的內在心像將慈悲與疼惜帶給你。
你希望你理想的照顧型/慈悲型的內在心像看起來是怎麼樣子的？
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你希望你理想的照顧型/慈悲型的內在心像聽起來是什麼樣子的？（如，聲調音頻）
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你還希望賦予這個內在心像什麼樣的感官特質？（如味道、觸感）
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你希望你理想的照顧型/慈悲型的內在心像會如何跟你互動？
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你希望你自己會如何跟你理想的照顧型/慈悲型的內在心像互動？
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This exercise is to help you build up a
compassionate image for you to work with and develop (you can have more than
one if you wish, and they can change over time). Whatever image comes to mind,
or you choose to work with, note that it is your creation and therefore your
own personal ideal—what you would really like from feeling cared for and cared
about. However, in this practice it is important that you try to give your
image certain qualities. These will include:
Wisdom, Strength, Warmth and Non-judgement
So in each box below think of these
qualities (wisdom, strength, warmth and non-judgement) and imagine what they
would look, sound and feel like. If possible we begin by focusing on our
breathing, finding our calming rhythm and making a half smile. Then we can let
images emerge in the mind—as best we can—do not too try to hard—if nothing
comes to the mind, or the mind wanders, just gently bring it back to the
breathing and practice compassionately accepting. Here are some questions that
might help you build an image: would you want your caring/nurturing image to feel/look/seem
old or young; male or female (or non-human looking, e.g., an animal, sea or
light)? What colours and sounds are associated with the qualities of wisdom,
strength, warmth and non-judgement? Remember your image brings compassion to
you and for you.
How would you like your ideal caring–compassionate
image to look—visual qualities?
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How would you like your ideal caring–compassionate
image to sound (e.g., voice tone)?
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What other sensory qualities can you give
to it?
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How would you like your ideal caring–compassionate
image to relate to you?
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How would like to relate to your ideal caring-compassionate
image?
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附錄三 自我報告日誌
APPENDIX
3. SELF-REPORT DIARIES
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自我批評的想法Self-critical thoughts
回想過去一週，你曾經有過任何自我批評的想法嗎？
Looking back over the week, can you
recall any self-critical thoughts?
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自我疼惜/安撫的想法Self-compassion/soothing thoughts
回想過去一週，你曾經有過任何自我安撫/自我保證的想法？
Looking back over the week, can you
recall any self-soothing/reassuring thoughts?
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一、是什麼樣的情境/事件引起這些想法？
1. What situations/events brought them
about?
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一、是什麼樣的情境/事件引起這些想法？
1. What situations/events brought them
about?
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二、你有怎麼樣的自我批評的想法與感受？
2. What were your self-critical thoughts
and feelings?
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二、你有怎麼樣的自我安撫/自我保證的想法與感受？
2. What were your
self-soothing/reassuring thought and feelings?
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三、回想過去一週的情形（請在下列每一題勾選出適當的數字）：
1.你有多常出現自我批評的想法？
從來沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 經常出現
2.你的自我批評的想法的力道有多強？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常有力
3.你的自我批評的想法對你的干擾程度有多少？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常干擾
4.你自我批評的想法會持續多久？
飛逝而過 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 幾近整天
5.自我批評的想法對你造成多大的苦惱？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常苦惱
6.你的自我批評的想法有多大程度的憤怒/敵意呢？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常騷擾
7.將你跟你的自我批評的想法區分開來，有多容易呢？
一點都不容易 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常容易
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三、回想過去一週的情形（請在下列每一題勾選出適當的數字）：
1.你多常出現自我安撫的想法？
從來沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 經常出現
2.你的自我安撫的想法的力道有多強？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常有力
3.你的自我安撫的想法對你的干擾程度有多少？
4.你的自我安撫的想法能持續多久？
飛逝而過 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 幾近整天
5.你的自我安撫的想法有多大程度的安慰效果？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常撫慰
6.你的自我安撫的想法有多大程度的平靜與愉悅呢？
完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常平靜愉悅
7.維持你的自我安撫的想法，有多容易呢？
一點都不容易 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 非常容易
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3. Thinking back over the week (please
circle on each):
(a) How often did you have self-critical
thoughts?
Had none 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 A lot of
the time
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3. Thinking back over the week (please
circle on each):
(a) How often did you have self-soothing
thoughts?
Had none 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 A lot of
the time
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(b)
How powerful were your self-critical thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
powerful
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(b)
How powerful were your self-soothing thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
powerful
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(c)
How intrusive were your self-critical thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
intrusive
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完全沒有 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
8 9 10 非常干擾
(c) How intrusive were your self-soothing
thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
intrusive
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(d)
How long did your self-critical thoughts last?
Fleetingly 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Most of
the day
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(d)
How long did your self-soothing thoughts last?
Fleetingly 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Most of
the day
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(e)
How distressed were you by your self-critical thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
distressed
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(e)
How comforting were your self-soothing thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
comforting
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(f)
How angry/hostile were your self-critical thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
harassing
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(f)
How calming/pleasant were your self-soothing thoughts?
Not at all 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
calming/pleasant
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(g)
How easy was it to distract yourself from your self-critical thoughts?
Not at all easy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
easy
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(g)
How easy was it to maintain your self-soothing thoughts?
Not at all easy 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Very
easy
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看到這裡，給你鼓掌肯定！
希望有助於大家散播慈愛悲憫之心！
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